The Brain Language Podcast

Send us Fan Mail Susan and Morgan explore how NLP timelines shape the way we remember the past, experience the present, and build the future. We also guide a simple timeline exercise that helps us step into a future outcome, send messages across time, and think clearly about legacy. • why timelines show up across NLP as a core concept rather than a single technique • how submodalities code time and help us know what was “yesterday” versus “years ago” • common timeline layou...

Send us Fan Mail We lay out why money doesn’t stick without the right identity, beliefs, skills, and habits, even for people who earn a lot. We connect practical personal finance strategy to NLP tools so you can shift scarcity thinking, manage emotional risk, and build systems that make wealth sustainable. • money beliefs working alongside strategies, capabilities, and behaviors • using immersion learning through books, podcasts, and mentors to change perceptual filters • ch...

Send us Fan Mail Wanting a richer life can quietly turn into a money trap: vague goals, emotional language, and habits that feel productive but never add up to real progress. We dig into why “I want more money” is one of the fastest ways to confuse your brain, and how NLP can help you build a well-formed outcome that’s specific, realistic, and tied to action you can actually repeat. We also get practical about the part most people skip: the math. Big purchases and “dream upgrades” don’t end ...

Send us Fan Mail We break down illness as a structured experience and show how NLP tools can help you move from diagnosis shock to a clear path toward health. We connect outcomes, beliefs, emotions, and self-efficacy so you can stay engaged through plateaus and make better decisions with your health team. • defining a well-formed outcome and desired state for health • using neurological levels to map where the problem lives • changing submodalities to shift state and motivat...

Send us Fan Mail Motivation isn’t missing—it’s miswired. We dive into a practical, humane way to rebuild drive by treating motivation as a system you can design, not a feeling you wait to feel. Drawing on decades of NLP practice, we unpack why willpower fizzles, how vague goals quietly sabotage action, and what to change when progress plateaus. Along the way, we contrast corporate SMART goals with a richer approach that connects outcomes to values, identity, and clear sensory language your br...

Send us Fan Mail From an NLP perspective, what are some of the common ways we get stuck in experiences or behavior patterns because we aren’t exercising as much conscious control as we really have? 1. Holding Onto Limiting Beliefs Tips to overcome this: An easy way to begin to loosen the effects of a belief is to do Sleight of Mouth. Ep 51, 53. Take the belief statement with a cause/effect or meaning, and write out the pattern of SOM to change it. This will weak...

Send us Fan Mail In this podcast short, Susan Stageman shares insights on effective goal-setting and reflects on a helpful exercise she completed in December. She encourages listeners to review their past accomplishments and connect them to current goals, emphasizing the importance of valuing and aligning goals with personal interests. Susan also discusses the value of setting goals outside of work and recommends the book "Orbiting the Giant Hairball" by Gordon McKenzie for those seeking to n...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of the Brain Language Podcast, Susan and Morgan discussed strategies for managing stress and resetting for the new year. They explored various techniques, including outcome focus, the Circle of Excellence exercise, deep breathing, meditation, and being present. Morgan shared insights on using breath modulation to manage anxiety, while Susan emphasized the importance of setting realistic standards and boundaries. They also discussed the impact of sugar and alco...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we explore anchors and anchoring, a simple to complex process in NLP designed to change our moods and states. Discussed are the different types of anchors, stimulus-response, how anchors work, the importance of anchors, the use of kinesthetic anchors for change, and where to start. Included is an example of a collapsed reality: adding a resource to a problem experience. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail It seems you can lead the horse to water and it will drink! You need patience! Patience is what is necessary to influence and persuade: taking people's maps into new territories. Matching, pacing, and leading are foundational concepts in NLP, crucial for establishing rapport, understanding another person’s model of the world, and guiding them towards desired outcomes. It’s an important part of many NLP methods and processes, and can often be the key skill to making thos...

Send us Fan Mail Many people find that as they move through life that they have to shift gears…a new job, a new career, family, divorce, move. Many people are looking for that “new path” when they study NLP. As we prepare for these shifts, a great way to start is to develop a set of presuppositions and guiding questions to steer the change. This will ensure that the change will stay in place. This is the step before any planning or goal setting, or even belief changes. This episode is a...

Send us Fan Mail NLP for Emotional Regulation What is Emotional Intelligence? Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is the capacity to recognize, understand, and navigate your emotions and those of others. It includes Self-Awareness, Emotional Regulation, Motivation, Empathy, and Social Skills. What is Emotional Regulation? Emotional Regulation (ER) is a component of EQ strategies for managing their intensity and expression and intentionally creating emotional states you want. ER skills give you ...

Send us Fan Mail The Not-So-Subtle Art of Complaining Most of us complain, but is it good or bad? What makes it productive or toxic? Overview of what will be covered: Common language patterns of complainingThe benefits and downsides of complainingHow to shift from chronic complaining The Language of Complaints This was discovered by using AI to analyze posts on a social media platform that contained complaints. We then used the NLP Meta Model pattern to refine the...

Send us Fan Mail 1. What is TimeLine? A Timeline is a visual, linear experience of how someone codes and stores time. In NLP timeline is a term used to describe how we internally represent time. We internally represent the past, present, and future differently. The concept was originally laid out in the TimeLine Therapy and the Basis of Personality by Tad James and Wyatt Woodsmall. It was a project given to them by Richard Bandler. Timeline can be used to create goal ...

Send us Fan Mail Main Points: · Understand the goal-reaching process and what makes goals happen · Picture representation of goals for the coming year · Construct the boards for optimum effectiveness · Well-constructed boards that are ecological, align with values and Include 5 major areas of a person’s life: faith, fitness, family, friends, financial · Eyes move e...

Send us Fan Mail What is Imposter syndrome? Explaining away your accomplishments and success and doubting your abilities 1. What are common examples of imposter syndrome? 2. How can you assess if you have imposter syndrome Take the quiz: Do you chalk your success up to luck, timing, or computer error? Do you believe that if I can do it, anyone can? Do you agonize over small flaws in your work? Are you crushed by even constructive criticism, seeing i...

Send us Fan Mail 1. What is important about stories, and metaphors in communication? When someone studies the great communicators, past and present, they all use metaphors and analogies to illustrate their points. Metaphors compare things that are less understandable to familiar things. They create new meanings, make complex ideas understandable, motivate interest, and influence ideas. They create images that people can understand rather than literal words 2.&nb...

Send us Fan Mail How do we break patterns? Outcome, outcome, outcome Remember, that in the NLP model, all experience has structure. When you explore and change the structure, your experience changes, the perception, meaning, and feeling. NLP creates specific changes rather than random, trial-and-error changes. It changes things by adding resources, not taking away anything. Our experience and patterns are organized on a hierarchy of neurology from Environment, Behavior, Capability, Be...

Send us Fan Mail This is a Podcast Short. It addresses the cycle of ups and downs that some people experience when building a business or learning something new. In the podcast, I tackle some of the challenges by using NLP session flow from creating a well-formed outcome to what to look for when modeling a mentor. I talk about the complexities of modeling, optimum strategies for success, the factors of genius, belief changes, and the Unified Field in NLP. The short version:...

Send us Fan Mail I’m receiving more and more requests from people to help them with their lack of ability to fall asleep, stay asleep, and get restful sleep. So that they can wake up rested. Sleep is difficult because of the things we keep track of or have to take care of. Sleep is a big part of calming your nervous system to manage stress (EP 79). Hosts discuss why people can’t fall asleep. 1. How does NLP help us when it comes to getting a good night's sleep? Strat...

Send us Fan Mail Morgan recently started a coaching and training business that focuses on helping corporate leaders, professionals, and entrepreneurs control and reduce stress. This episode covers the problem with stress in society, what stress is, how it affects our body, and how to use NLP and other processes to reduce stress. It is estimated that 75-90% of all health problems are caused by or related to stress. Impacts: Damages neural pathways. Interferes with decision-making and jud...

Send us Fan Mail Podcast #78 1. What is the Score? The score is a process developed by Todd Epstein and Robert Dilts that creates an established pathway for change. It is part of the unified field theory developed by Robert Dilts. It is nestled between defining the problem state SOAR (State, operator, results) and the TOTE (test, operate, test exit), checks and balances along the pathway. 2. What does the score do? It defines the small...

Send us Fan Mail We are starting this new year with a star-studded program featuring none other than Rodger Bailey, developer of the LAB profile! If you are a student of NLP you will recognize this name. Rodger developed a training program for managers to recognize a person's functional capabilities and motivational triggers using a simple linguistic interview, so managers can know which tasks that person can do well and how to influence and motivate them. Here are some of the question...

Send us Fan Mail Here is my prescription for a happy holiday if not a tolerable one… Set an outcome to have fun and enjoy the holidays. Get plenty of rest Sugar and alcohol place a huge strain on your biological system. Taking care of yourself might also include meditation and prayer. And exercise – even a walk every day or every other day brings positive benefits. Another issue connected to taking care of yourself is setting boundaries: ...

Send us Fan Mail Conflict is a part of life. But how we deal with it and resolve it is what helps us maintain harmony. NLP has an outstanding process to reduce or eliminate inner conflict at any logical level. 1. Where does conflict occur? Areas in which conflict manifests Understanding conflicts of beliefs and values There are many types of conflict. Conflicts of beliefs and values are about issues where compromise is not an option. They are conflicts based upon disagreeme...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever sat in a seminar or a talk about communication and heard the speaker use these statistics about communication? · 7% are the words, · 38% is the way the words are said (para verbals) and · 55% of the communication is non-verbal (body language) These often yet misquoted, out-of-context figures came out of the work of Albert Mehrabian, specifically, “Silent Messages.” B...

Send us Fan Mail How can NLP address motivation? Motivation is the desire or willingness to do something. A major complaint of many clients is that they aren’t motivated. The Keys to getting yourself to do something can be addressed in a system using the model of NLP. These include 1. Submodalities – compelling future; contrastive analysis 2. Meta programs 3. Beliefs 4. Values 5. L...

Send us Fan Mail Safe to say most human problems stem from other humans. Lately, I’ve been coaching a number of people who are starting relationships or are reaching a place where it is obvious that something has to change. Here is a short list of relationship characteristics that I think need to be there for a lasting bond. 1. Do I feel safe? Does my partner feel safe? Are you a safe person? 2. Do I know what I want? And that doesn’t me...

Send us Fan Mail NLP contains many powerful concepts and techniques that can be transformative on their own, but when utilized as an entire system, NLP can make change almost effortless and sustainable. When we try to change something about ourselves or our actions simply through willpower, we often find it difficult to create and maintain motivation, develop and follow a successful strategy, overcome setbacks and obstacles, align our beliefs, values, identity, and thinking processes wi...

Send us Fan Mail This is a real treat! Stan B. Walters is our guest on this episode. Stan is known as “The Lie Guy®” and has appeared on ABC, CBS, CNN, Fox News, NBC, France Channel One, and Australia Today. He was the host / technical adviser on National Geographic's “The Science of Interrogation.” He is a Certified Speaking Professional by the National Speakers Association. He has authored Principles of Kinesic Interview and Interrogation: 2nd Edition which has worldwide sales. ...

Send us Fan Mail Sometimes we have so much to do that the more we 'try' to get done, the less we actually do. We stop planning and jump from crisis to crisis, putting out fires, and never seem to accomplish anything. The feeling of overwhelm sets in and if left to itself will insure that the system will go into chaos. It is a very stressful place to be. You never seem to get ahead. Life becomes a decathlon, running and gunning, in an effort to beat the clock. Your aim becomes sloppy, you don’...

Send us Fan Mail This is a 10-minute "short" on the possible reason some people snack unconsciously while stressing, concentrating, or creating something new. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Watching my favorite genre of TV series, the detective show, I am reminded about the importance of evidence. The seasoned detective uses a lot of intuition because they have seen it all before and they develop tacit knowledge of criminal patterns that play over and over again. But when it comes to charging and convicting a criminal for a crime, evidence is the name of the game. One of the keys to NLP and developing achievable outcomes is the “evidence ...

Send us Fan Mail Although the end-of-year holidays have passed, it is always a good reminder the review how the NLP Presuppositions can make interactions with others easier. Presuppositions, in general, act as guiding principles that are assumed as true for any model. NLP, Neuro-Linguistics Programming is no exception. To understand and engage the model of NLP, those 22 or so presuppositions must be accepted to make the model work. This episode addresses, What are Presupposition...

Send us Fan Mail Episode addresses: 1. What is difficult about making changes 2. How are beliefs important to making changes 3. What are some of the important tools for facilitating a change? Verbal affirmations, Mentors, Systems, Timeline, Beliefs to support 4. What is the timeline installation belief procedure and how does it work? When we have a desired outcome or go...

Send us Fan Mail James and I talk about how he using his NLP skills in his new business. He uses many more than three things, but here are his top three; Told from his point of view! 1. Rapport skills I am intensely dialed into whom I am speaking with in my driver roster and configure my interactions with them to match and pace the conversation.When addressing groups I am careful to cover all modalities with regard to using visual, auditory, and kinesthetic as well as move-away from an...

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Send us Fan Mail Kinesthetic anchoring, reframing, and conflict resolution are some of the NLP processes people can use for mental and emotional changes. There are many more but these are processes that people can learn how to use themselves and are simple change techniques. It is most important to develop a wellformed outcome before using any process to resolve an issue. An outcome is necessary for any change. The brain is directional. Tell the brain where you are going an...

Send us Fan Mail This is an inspirational story of a Master Practitioner of NLP who used NLP processes while undergoing cancer treatments. He mentions some of the processes in NLP he used, such as the Outcome Frame (sensory-based), anchoring, submodalities (pain management), the structure of questions, presuppositions, and beliefs (his and others). Other topics include 1. Beliefs and the Bandura curve – a. Belief in treatment, b. ...

Send us Fan Mail Julie Thurburn, as guest host, and Susan Stageman discuss visual rapport -- What are you wearing for the conversation you want to have? Julie is a Certified Image Consultant. In a slightly different format, they talk about rapport from a different angle: how our appearance can make or break rapport from the outside to the internal feelings we have. After Julie discusses why she got into Image Consulting and the greatest challenges she solves for her clients, they...

Send us Fan Mail Many parents ask me about NLP training or help with their child’s self-esteem. This episode includes The important stages of Childhood development Sense of self around age 2The approach a parent should take if they think a child would benefit from NLPTeaching the child the NLP presuppositions and helping them apply them to life situations will help them understand how to deal with situations. Children are going to model you anyway. Teaching them the basic concepts of NL...

Send us Fan Mail The Score is an approach to solving problems and getting outcomes developed by Robert Dilts and Todd Epstein in 1987 to describe the process they were intuitively using to define problems and design interventions. They realized through teaching a series of seminars that they were systemically organizing the way they approach a problem differently than the advanced NLP students. The SCORE stands for symptom, causes, outcomes, resources, and effect. These are the m...

Send us Fan Mail Decision-making is a complex process – some processes are more complex than others. How you arrive at a decision is a process of taking in information both externally and internally and then taking action. To double down is to take a further risk in a situation or passionately re-commit one's efforts to a cause or course of action. Summary Decision-making is a complex process that is affected by our past and what authorities we choose to use. Doubling down will fo...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we talk about Permissive or Indirect Language or The Milton Model. Indirect language or permissive language it is called sometimes is vaguely worded communication designed to bypass the conscious mind and speak to the unconscious. Phrases of permissive language or the Milton Model are often used to soften communication. Instead of using direct, authoritarian language, such as, "Do this report by Monday," the speaker might say, "Would it be possible to have ...

Send us Fan Mail Guest host, Brad Costanzo, and Susan Stageman talk about the Disney Strategy. The brilliance of Disney comes out in this strategy he used to build an entertainment empire during the depression. We talk about what it is, how to use it. Your inner critic has a job to do. Give it the right job. When you organize your planning around the Dream, the Plan, and the Critic, your goals are so much easier to reach. Brad talks about how he has used this with his clients Support th...

Send us Fan Mail Susan and Guest Host, James Lusk, explore the Meta Model, Process-Oriented Questions. What is the Meta Model? We review the Meta Model and its categories: deletions, generalizations, and distortions. How do the language patterns of the Meta Model relate to our mental maps? Finally, James talks about some of his outstanding applications of the Meta Model and its importance in communication. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Many people think they know what they want but haven’t taken the time to discover what they are asking for. It is easy to say, I want to be a great leader or business person or salesperson or wife, husband, chef, manager, etc. but do not have criteria or even what values or beliefs or behaviors a leader, etc. would have or what they would demonstrate to be a good leader, etc. Here is a shortlist of 10 things that are necessary to be effective at a leadership level. ...

Send us Fan Mail Part 1 of Sleight of Mouth Patterns is Episode #51. In episode # 51 we did SOM patterns REDEFINE, COUNTER EXAMPLE, HIERARCHY OF CRITERIA, AND INTENTION. In this episode we are going to try to finish the patterns. CHUNK DOWN, CHUNK UP, APPLY TO SELF, REALITY STRATEGY, MODEL OF THE WORLD, ANOTHER OUTCOME, CHANGE FRAME SIZE Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Time is an elusive concept. Yes, Time is a concept. It doesn't exist the way we think it does. We can keep track of time on a clock. Because of that people tend to quantify time, having too much time on their hands or too little time. We have dozens of linguistic metaphors around time, i.e. Time flies or Time is money or you are running out of time or he is living on borrowed time. From an NLP point of view, the concept of time is in our heads. How we organized time in ...

Send us Fan Mail In 1980, Robert Dilts modeled the patterns of such esteemed communicators as Abraham Lincoln, Gandhi, Milton Erickson, Plato, and Socrates (to name a few.) These individuals were superb at influencing belief systems and effectively persuading with these quick verbal reframes. Dilts called these language patterns Sleight of Mouth, named after sleight of hand from artful and crafty card magicians. These patterns have a magical quality when used and can produce dramatic sh...